# The Unseen Self · Not Mine to Carry

Status: published
Scope: complete-authored-record
Source: https://innergeniusacademy.com/the-unseen-self#compass-not-mine-to-carry
Provenance: Unseen Self 2.0.0-new-edition; complete authored card or territory, with contract link. Prefer academy_unseen_self for facilitation.

{
  "edition": "2.0.0-new-edition",
  "content": {
    "id": "not-mine-to-carry",
    "title": "Not Mine to Carry",
    "summary": "Reflection does not require accepting responsibility for another person's harm.",
    "steps": [
      "Separate another person's choices from your reaction to them. Their threats, coercion, violence, or abuse are not your fault.",
      "You do not need to understand, forgive, contact, or confront a person who harmed you. You may stop the exercise without deciding anything about the relationship.",
      "If useful, name one limit privately: ‘I do not have to explain this here,’ or ‘I can seek support without proving the whole story.’",
      "If someone scares you or monitors your device, consider Reach Out from a safer device when possible. Choose the next step that fits your situation; this tool cannot assess your safety."
    ],
    "caution": "Make this card available directly from Mirror, Ledger, and Verdict. Never require a Fair Share calculation before someone may use it."
  },
  "required_companion_reference": "https://innergeniusacademy.com/api/agent-guide/unseen-self",
  "conduct": "Read the full specification before facilitating. No diagnoses, forced disclosure, inferred motives, or automatic saving."
}

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